Wednesday, August 26, 2009

It's Here! The Self-Help Road Map!

My e-book, The Self-Help Road Map, is ready to serve! If you or anyone you know is getting ready to start a journey of self-improvement, discovery and healing, let The Self-Help Road Map guide the way. Even if you've tried to get help in the past and it hasn't worked, The Self-Help Road Map can open your eyes and redirect you to new avenues of healing you didn't know existed. It will save you tons of time, money and frustration. I've done the hard work in finding the good help so you can focus your energy on yourself!

Personally, I feel very proud of what I have done. Even if I don't sell a single copy, I know that I have done my best and I have a written account of all I have done to better myself (so far!). I have documented these past 10-15 years of growth and change. I am so happy to share what I have learned and if it can help just one person, then that's the icing.

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A great resource for self improvement advice.

Leftovers that didn't make it into my e-book

There was a lot of stuff that just didn't make it into my latest self-improvement e-book, so I'll be guiding you to that information here on the blog. A couple of valuable pieces of information are what you can expect in a theraputic relationship and questions you'll want to ask your prospective therapist. Read more about it here:

Friday, January 16, 2009

How to Live Your Life

...or rather, how I live MY life. Some of these may not resonate with you, but I have found that living this way makes me happy and keeps my head clear.

1. Find ways to connect to your spirit every day.

2. Go to bed on time.

3. Get up on time so you can start the day unrushed.

4. Say No to projects that won't fit into your time schedule, or that will compromise your mental health.

5. Delegate tasks to capable others.

6. Simplify and unclutter your life.

7. Less is more. (Although one is often not enough, two are often too many.)

8. Allow extra time to do things and to get to places.

9. Pace yourself. Spread out big changes and difficult projects over time; don't lump the hard things all together.

10. Take one day at a time.

11. Separate worries from concerns . If a situation is a concern, find out what God would have you do and let go of the anxiety . If you can't do anything about a situation, forget it.

12. Live within your budget; don't use credit cards for ordinary purchases.

13. Have backups; an extra car key in your wallet, an extra house key buried in the garden, extra stamps, etc.

14. K.M.S. (Keep Mouth Shut). This single piece of advice can prevent an enormous amount of trouble.

15. Do something for the Kid in You everyday.

16. Get enough rest.

17. Eat right.

18. Get organized so everything has its place.

19. Listen to a tape while driving that can help improve your quality of life.

20. Write down thoughts and inspirations.

21. Every day, find time to be alone.

22. Make friends with Godly people.

23. Laugh.

24. Laugh some more!

25. Be kind to unkind people (they probably need it the most).

26. Slow down.

27. If you like something about someone, tell them.

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Tuesday, December 2, 2008

It is never ok to discount your feelings or experiences.

From The DailyOM: Universal Feelings

Every day we hear stories of personal suffering and loss that far exceed our own. When we compare our situations to those of people living in war-torn countries or those who have lost their homes and livelihoods to natural disasters, it is tempting to minimize our own experiences of suffering. We may feel that we don’t have a right to be upset about the breakup of a relationship, for example, because at least we have food to eat and a roof over our heads.

While awareness of the pain of others in the world can be a valuable way to keep our own struggles in perspective, it is not a legitimate reason to disregard our own pain. Disparaging your feelings as being less important than other people's emotions leads to denial and repression. Over time, an unwillingness to experience your own feelings leads to numbness. It is as if our internal systems become clogged with our unexpressed emotions. This in no way helps other people who are suffering in the world. In fact, it may do just the opposite because when we devalue our own sorrow, we become impervious to the sorrow in others.

Fully experiencing our own hurt is the gateway to compassion toward other human beings. Feelings of loss, abandonment, loneliness, and fear are universal, and, in that sense, all feelings are created equal. Regardless of what leads us to feel the way we do, our comprehension of what it means to be human is deepened by our own experiences. Our personal lives provide us with the material we need to become fully conscious. If we reject our emotions because we think our experiences are not dramatic or important enough, we are missing out on our own humanity. We honor and value the human condition when we fully inhabit our bodies so we can experience and feel life fully. Accepting our emotions and allowing ourselves to feel them connects us to all human beings. Then, when we hear the stories of other people’s suffering, our hearts can resonate with understanding and compassion—for all of us.

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Saturday, November 15, 2008

If you want to be happy, be.

Some inspirational quotes that made me feel good today!

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Wednesday, October 15, 2008

The Devil Made Me Do It

This blog made me laugh today. I've been writing my ebook on the Self Help Jungle and this help to keep me lighthearted and not-so-serious!

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Sunday, September 14, 2008

Boredom Rocks

I'm always excited when I see articles that help me reclaim something that I usually beat myself up about. Here's an article on Boredom.

Personally I like it when I feel bored (even if I do beat myself up about it when it happens). It's usually a temporary feeling that allows me to do a litmus test in my brain. I scan the possible things I could do and whatever my heart jumps for, I know is good. It's fun to observe the things that I'm interested in in that moment. For instance, cleaning the fridge might be very exciting to me when I'm bored rather than when my plate is full. You just never know where you'll end up when you're bored. Find a way to be with it rather than struggling to accomplish something, no matter how long the feeling lasts. Eventually you'll discover the things you want to do. It's like a clean slate or a pausing of Life.

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